Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM), Polyamory & Relationship Diversity Therapy / Coaching

Relationships are not one-size-fits-all. Many individuals and partners are exploring relationship structures that prioritize honesty, autonomy, and intentional connection. While these relationship systems can be deeply fulfilling, they can also bring unique emotional, relational, and societal challenges.

I provide affirming therapy and coaching for individuals, partners, and relationship systems practicing or exploring ethical non-monogamy (ENM), polyamory, open relationships, and other consensually non-monogamous relationship structures. My work centers emotional safety, relational clarity, and helping you build relationship systems that reflect your values rather than default expectations.

Common Reasons Clients Seek ENM / Poly / Relationship Diversity Therapy

You might be navigating:

Opening an existing relationship and wanting to do so thoughtfully
Repairing trust after broken agreements or boundary ruptures
Jealousy, insecurity, or comparison distress
Differences in desire for monogamy vs non-monogamy
Communication struggles between partners or metamours
Navigating hierarchy vs non-hierarchical relationship structures
Dating while partnered
Managing time, emotional labor, and relationship balance
Attachment activation in multi-partner dynamics
Cultural or family rejection of relationship structure
Shame or internalized stigma about non-traditional relationships
Identity exploration related to relational autonomy and authenticity

Many clients seek support not because their relationships are failing — but because they want to build them intentionally, ethically, and sustainably.

Who This Work Supports

I work with:

Individuals exploring or practicing ENM or polyamory
Couples opening or renegotiating agreements
Established multi-partner relationship systems
Partners navigating differences in relationship orientation
People new to ENM seeking guidance before opening
LGBTQIA+ relationship systems
Neurodivergent individuals navigating relational complexity
Adoptees and individuals navigating attachment and identity dynamics within non-traditional relationship systems

Therapy can support both relationship repair and proactive relationship design.

My Approach to Relationship Diversity Work

I approach ENM and polyamory through a non-pathologizing, culturally aware, and relationally attuned framework. My work focuses on helping clients develop emotional security, internal clarity, and relational accountability.

I support clients in exploring:

Attachment patterns across multiple relationships
Emotional regulation and nervous system safety
Differentiation and maintaining individual identity within relationship systems
Building agreements rooted in values rather than fear
Repairing ruptures and rebuilding trust
Navigating power, hierarchy, and relational equity
Shame resilience and internalized societal messaging
Communication that centers transparency and compassion

I do not treat ENM or polyamory as a problem to fix. I support clients in building relationships that are consensual, intentional, and emotionally sustainable.

Therapeutic Modalities I Use

My work is integrative and draws from evidence-based and relationally focused therapy models.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

Supports partners and relationship systems in understanding emotional bonding patterns, strengthening secure attachment, and creating lasting emotional connection.

Internal Family Systems (IFS)

Helps individuals and partners understand internal emotional parts that influence jealousy, fear, protectiveness, or vulnerability within relationship dynamics.

Attachment-Focused and Trauma-Informed Care

Supports clients in recognizing how early relational experiences may influence current relationship patterns and emotional responses.

Systems Theory

Examines how relational, family, cultural, and social systems influence relationship dynamics and identity development.

Experiences Clients Commonly Describe

While therapy outcomes vary, clients often report:

Greater emotional security within relationship systems
Increased confidence communicating needs and boundaries
Reduced shame or internalized stigma about relationship identity
Improved ability to navigate jealousy and comparison
Stronger trust and repair skills after conflict
More clarity around relationship agreements and values
Greater balance between autonomy and connection
Increased compassion toward themselves and their partners

Therapy vs Coaching for
ENM & Relationship Diversity

If you live in Washington State, I offer therapy services for individuals, partners, and relationship systems.

If you live outside Washington State, I offer identity and relationship coaching nationwide and internationally. Coaching focuses on growth, relational skill-building, and identity exploration and is not a substitute for mental health treatment.

Affirming Identity & Cultural Awareness

I approach relationship diversity work through a culturally attuned and feminist-informed lens. As someone who identifies as bisexual and practices consensual non-monogamy, I bring both professional training and lived understanding to this work while maintaining strong clinical boundaries and ethical practice.

Clients often share that working with a therapist who understands both the relational and cultural complexities of ENM reduces the need to educate their therapist and allows sessions to focus on meaningful growth and healing.

Related Services

Clients exploring relationship diversity often benefit from additional areas of support:

👉🏽 Adoptee-Focused Therapy
👉🏽 Relationship Therapy
👉🏽 Identity, Culture & LGBTQIA+ Therapy / Coaching
👉🏽 Trauma & Attachment-Focused Individual Therapy